The Helicopter Mom
The “Palmer Drive - Bree Austin Household” has been a similar scene to the “Hysteria Lane - Bree Van De Campe Household” this week. Surprisingly inspired and caused by Bree Austin!” It wasn’t me this time…I promise!!!
My daughter, Brittnee, is in Pre-AP Language Arts and she had this 324 page novel “Anne of Avonlea” to read over a course of 3 weeks. The project counted as 3 test grades which could make or break her grade.
Scared and upset, my daughter approaches me on Sunday morning and tells me, “Mom, I haven’t read the book and I have a test on Tuesday…I’m in so much trouble, can you help me?” I should have asked her, “Who are you asking, Bree Van De Campe - the OCD Helicopter MOM or me?” Even though the thought did cross my mind… I wished I could be that “Mean Spirited Individual,”…. it’s just not who I am. I did the predictable and lectured her about the procrastinated predicament and the consequence of her actions that could transpire and will transpire if she pulls this dumb stunt again.
Carpe Diem
After the lecture, instead of being mad and upset with this whole situation, I started to reflect back when Bree was little and how I enjoyed reading to my little girl. It has almost been a decade since I last read to her. So, I don’t have to tell you what I was thinking when she come to me….but I didn’t let her know that!
A carpe diem opportunity had presented itself to me and I quickly recognized my chance to spend quality time and have control of a situation and her teenaged monopolized time once more.
The Book
If anyone hasn’t read “Anne of Avonlea,” it is a good book. The beginning is a little difficult, because Anne is a teacher in a community (Avonlea) and therefore, there are various characters with different personality types that have to be established at the beginning of the book before the action starts and the use of slang is a bit annoying because it took place a long time ago making it challenging to read out loud. But once you get through it…it’s a fun read.
In a previous post, I have talked about my thoughts and feelings on spanking kids. There is a young boy named “Davy” in this book he is just a pill…he does all sorts of colored things. Hilarious and funny - one situation where he is in the church and does something to a little girl…took me back to a time when I was in church with my brother and he was committing mortifying acts against people that were sitting in front of us…I guess some things never change. Davy was definitely my favorite character, but he did deserve a spanking on several occasions.
With that being said, I’m glad I read this book, I think it’s a good idea that, as parents, we investigate what our children are having to read in school because it helps us to understand where our kids are coming from when you react a particular way as a parent and your son or daughter tells you you’re abusive because you hit them on the leg with a mere flimsy flip-flop….as responsible parents, we should make it our prerogative to know where this type of thinking is coming from! This teacher feels that spanking is a result of anger and therefore hitting is teaching your child to react violently out of anger. I thought this was a great way to explain it.
Success
I happen to agree with this sentiment to an extent…I believe “Children” need to be spanked in moderation up to a certain “Age.” Then you must change your approach – learning how to leverage with them… teaching them how to be good communicators is the key to their future and creates a more defined controlled path or a guide in relationships resulting in a more successful happy life.
Brittnee said on her test there wasn’t a question she wasn’t 100% percent certain of the answer and she was most grateful for what I had done to help her…I’m glad this “Helicopter Mom Moment” propelled a successful outcome for now!
The “Palmer Drive - Bree Austin Household” has been a similar scene to the “Hysteria Lane - Bree Van De Campe Household” this week. Surprisingly inspired and caused by Bree Austin!” It wasn’t me this time…I promise!!!
My daughter, Brittnee, is in Pre-AP Language Arts and she had this 324 page novel “Anne of Avonlea” to read over a course of 3 weeks. The project counted as 3 test grades which could make or break her grade.
Scared and upset, my daughter approaches me on Sunday morning and tells me, “Mom, I haven’t read the book and I have a test on Tuesday…I’m in so much trouble, can you help me?” I should have asked her, “Who are you asking, Bree Van De Campe - the OCD Helicopter MOM or me?” Even though the thought did cross my mind… I wished I could be that “Mean Spirited Individual,”…. it’s just not who I am. I did the predictable and lectured her about the procrastinated predicament and the consequence of her actions that could transpire and will transpire if she pulls this dumb stunt again.
Carpe Diem
After the lecture, instead of being mad and upset with this whole situation, I started to reflect back when Bree was little and how I enjoyed reading to my little girl. It has almost been a decade since I last read to her. So, I don’t have to tell you what I was thinking when she come to me….but I didn’t let her know that!
A carpe diem opportunity had presented itself to me and I quickly recognized my chance to spend quality time and have control of a situation and her teenaged monopolized time once more.
The Book
If anyone hasn’t read “Anne of Avonlea,” it is a good book. The beginning is a little difficult, because Anne is a teacher in a community (Avonlea) and therefore, there are various characters with different personality types that have to be established at the beginning of the book before the action starts and the use of slang is a bit annoying because it took place a long time ago making it challenging to read out loud. But once you get through it…it’s a fun read.
In a previous post, I have talked about my thoughts and feelings on spanking kids. There is a young boy named “Davy” in this book he is just a pill…he does all sorts of colored things. Hilarious and funny - one situation where he is in the church and does something to a little girl…took me back to a time when I was in church with my brother and he was committing mortifying acts against people that were sitting in front of us…I guess some things never change. Davy was definitely my favorite character, but he did deserve a spanking on several occasions.
With that being said, I’m glad I read this book, I think it’s a good idea that, as parents, we investigate what our children are having to read in school because it helps us to understand where our kids are coming from when you react a particular way as a parent and your son or daughter tells you you’re abusive because you hit them on the leg with a mere flimsy flip-flop….as responsible parents, we should make it our prerogative to know where this type of thinking is coming from! This teacher feels that spanking is a result of anger and therefore hitting is teaching your child to react violently out of anger. I thought this was a great way to explain it.
Success
I happen to agree with this sentiment to an extent…I believe “Children” need to be spanked in moderation up to a certain “Age.” Then you must change your approach – learning how to leverage with them… teaching them how to be good communicators is the key to their future and creates a more defined controlled path or a guide in relationships resulting in a more successful happy life.
Brittnee said on her test there wasn’t a question she wasn’t 100% percent certain of the answer and she was most grateful for what I had done to help her…I’m glad this “Helicopter Mom Moment” propelled a successful outcome for now!
3 comments:
I remember reading the series... loved all the Anne books.
You're so nice to your daughter, to help her like that.
Oh - and we are BIG spank'n believers around here. But definately you are right in the fact that you have to change your ways of discipline as the kids get older. But little ones... oh trust me... sometimes they need a good spankin. Of course only for discipline, not anger!
Yes, I would pop bree on the but when she was a toddler...because they don't understand anything else but that.
Funny. And true!
lol!
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